The Sunlit Path|Jan 1, 2005 5:47 AM| by:

Importance of Stepping Back

A New Year is beginning.  We have all made our resolutions for the coming days. But life, people and events do not always move as we want them to.  There are things which are unpleasant, things which upset us, things which irritate or make us angry.  How do we deal with these?  We would also like to know what it is that is really worth having, worth possessing in life.

Question : What is the most valuable thing in life? How to face the various situations life creates and how to deal with the people it brings to us?   

Here is the Mother’s brief, practical and simple answer, yet very deep in its implications.  If we can practice what the Mother says every day, it can be a great help and make a big difference to our lives.   

“Most of you live on the surface of your being, exposed to the touch of external influences. You live almost projected, as it were, outside your own body, and when you meet some unpleasant being similarly projected you get upset.

The whole trouble arises out of your not being accustomed to stepping back. You must always step back into yourself—learn to go deep within —step back and you will be safe. Do not lend yourself to the superficial forces which move in the outside world. Even if you are in a hurry to do something, step back for a while and you will discover to your surprise how much sooner and with what greater success your work can be done. If someone is angry with you, do not be caught in his vibrations but simply step back and his anger, finding no support or response, will vanish. Always keep your peace, resist all temptation to lose it. Never decide anything without stepping back, never speak a word without stepping back, never throw yourself into action without stepping back.

All that belongs to the ordinary world is impermanent and fugitive, so there is nothing in it worth getting upset about.  What is lasting, eternal, immortal and infinite—that indeed is worth having, worth conquering, worth possessing. It is Divine Light, Divine Love, Divine Life—it is also Supreme Peace, Perfect Joy and All-Mastery upon earth with the Complete Manifestation as the crowning.

When you get the sense of the relativity of things, then whatever happens you can step back and look; you can remain quiet and call on the Divine Force and wait for an answer. Then you will know exactly what to do. Remember, therefore, that you cannot receive the answer before you are very peaceful. Practise that inner peace, make at least a small beginning and go on in your practice until it becomes a habit with you.”

The Mother