Moments Winging By...|May 18, 2011 11:06 AM| by:

Understanding Love

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Love is so misunderstood. Be it with friends or family or companions, it still remains fraught with ambiguity and tension. We cloak it with our endless expectations, willing the other person to change and bend to our will and yet we call it ‘love’ for the other one. We demand a certain attitude, we beg for openness and the ability to understand, we hope for gentleness – and yet, we may never show any of that ourselves, when it is called for, when the needle spins and points to us.

But there are moments in a certain relationship or scenario, when you know in your heart, that you did what you could – nothing, no force, could have made you give any less or any more. That is the point in your own evolution and inner growth, when you know that you have peaked, at least for the time being, until life prods you towards the next level. At such a moment, even if the world collapses upon itself, you remain unfazed simply because only you know that every ounce of your strength went into keeping it in motion. If despite that, the collapse took place, it was meant to.

Don’t always look for love when love is so fleeting, so boxed in, so convenient. Live alone within, be one with yourself, be stable in your deepest spot. Take strength from the knowledge of who you are and what you did – you remained selfless; you were a bigger person; you exceeded your own capacity and limit. That is something which should make you proud – not pride as in a pat on the back, well done, swollen head…… no, pride that a test was put forth and you sailed; when you could have chosen from a thousand roads, you took the one that was the hardest but the only one which could save. It may not save the relationship but it saved you because you know the effort and the determination with which you walked, an uphill task which you performed. So take that strength and know that while love is fleeting, while love is strange, while love is really so misunderstood, it exists. It exists because you yourself are a symbol of that love.

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    What a perfect article befitting my strained relationship with X. You mentioned, “But there are moments in a certain relationship or scenario, when you know in your heart, that you did what you could -- nothing, no force, could have made you give any less or any more. That is the point in your own evolution and inner growth, when you know that you have peaked,
    at least for the time being, until life prods you towards the next level.”

    Precisely I was at that point in the relationship. I have been constantly asking for help, protection and guidance.
    The Mother used you and your words and sent her light, help, force, power… to me. It has further increased my faith, certitude, trust in Her and will help me further purify my inner being.